I recently found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant. Though it was not planned, it is welcomed. I am 26, and have a Bachelor’s and am enrolled to get my Master’s in the Spring. I NEVER thought I would be a single mom, especially if it wasn’t the result of a divorce or death. But here I have found myself facing probably the most challenging choice I will ever make. The partner (who I have already decided I will not pursue in any way) wanted an abortion and has verbally tore me down for wanting to keep my child. The furthest thing was to keep HIM, but I knew from the moment I saw the two lines on the HPT that I was ready to be a mom. Well anyway, the last week has been an emotional roller coaster. I haven’t told anyone but my best friend who is also 7 1/2 months pregnant. And I am dreading having to tell my parents (who’ve been married 30 years) that they will be having their first grand baby by the 4th of July. Though this situation is far from ideal, I hold onto the conviction that even though the MAN I created this child with was not the “right” person, that doesn’t make the child wrong. So, that is what is keeping me strong in continuing the pregnancy. I just wanted to share this…I know it’s not a question but I would love to hear any of your personal accounts if this APPLIES to you. If it doesn’t—I don’t honestly think you can empathize, which would only leave you to judge and this is the wrong post for you to be on. God Bless~
@Corporate Zero—My hats off to you. Thanks for being a man. Your child has a wonderful father.
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I know a lot of strong single moms, Some on this place, nothing wrong with it, Good luck and wishes.
fair play to you im not a single mother my self but my sister and mother are i take my hat off to them for the choice they made i am the eldest of 8 and i dont know how my mother did it i have 2 boys and a husband and there are times i find it hard but i would never of given up my children even if i ended up single
good luck with the future and i hope everything goes well for you
p.s please tell your parents soon as a parent i would be very upset to know that my child was to worried about coming to me about something so important
there will be tears but then they will be very happy for you
good luck
You sound like a very strong women, you should be proud of yourself.
I know you wanted moms to answer but i read this and had to leave a comment letting you know that i think you are a strong women that should be proud of yourself!
When i was 15 my gf got prego but wanted to get an abortion, i talked her into keeping the baby and handing over custody to me! She stayed in the babys life for the first 5months even tho the baby lived with me and stayed with me all the time, when my son turned 5mo old the mom ditched on us, and now my son is 8yrs old and i am glad i was able to talk my ex into not getting an abortion, he has made me a stronger and better father
You will be fine. You’ve already been strong to stand up to the baby’s father and you already love your child. The next thing you should do is line up support. Your parents can be a wonderful source of support, even though you’re grown and moved out of the house. Many married women rely on their own mothers for help, even though they have partners. So tell your parents asap. Give them time to get used to the idea. They may be shocked at first, but in time they will be excited for the baby, and they will love and enjoy their new grandchild.
If you are going to finish your master’s degree before the birth, you should have no concerns with school, assuming you feel well during the pregnancy. But if you will need more time or if you have problems, be sure to inform your adviser and professors early in the spring semester. Most will be happy to accommodate and help you finish your degree, and if not, they will have to do it anyway.
Good luck. It’s uncertain and scary now, but once the baby comes, you will have no doubts and no regrets. Just be sure you have someone to help you.
I had the exact same experience. I found out I was pregnant and he wanted me to have an abortion. We broke up when I was 6 or 7 weeks pregnant. My daughter is now almost 2 and a half. I do not have any family nearby so I have done everything completely by myself. I have never regretted having her for one minute. I am sad that she doesn’t have a father. In fact, I signed on to “yahoo answers” tonight to ask people what they would tell their child when they asked where their father was. Anyway, my point is that my daughter is, by far, the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. Her father was a violent man and I am so grateful that she will never know that kind of life. She is beautiful and bright and makes me happy every single day. It is hard but not as hard as you would think. Taking care of a man takes as much work as taking care of a child but taking care of a child is much more rewarding. My daughter told me that she loved me for the first time a couple of months ago. Wow. Nothing like it!
You are right, a child is never wrong. Take care of yourself during your pregnancy. Stress can have a very negative effect on you and your unborn child. Look forward and do not look back. I would like to offer you my friendship and support. I do not know how to give you my personal information without posting it for everyone to see.
Congratulations! I am a single mother of an adopted child so while my circumstances are different, you and I have a lot in common. If I were your Mom, I would be so proud of you for this decision. While you may have a few rough times, your child will become the center of your universe. Your boyfriend is the one who loses out!