I am 21 years old and my boyfriend is 26. He has his masters and I my bachelors. I am pregnant and want to receive some advice if we should get married before the baby is born(next year April) or wait until after. I know I want to be with him forever, it is like a story book relationship, I know however I don’t know if we should attempt to get married before I start showing. What do you think?
So far answers are awesome. Thank you so much. I just wanted to add that through talking just in conversation of our future and what kind of wedding was for us even before this situation we want to have his dad perform the ceremony with just our parents and then have a huge celebration/party type thing after. So it won’t cost too much or much planning won’t go into it, we are very simplistic people, not into the big wedding.
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as long as both of you are committed to each other and to raising a family, then there is no rush. take the time to save money for the child’s future education and a house for everyone
Do whatever you feel is best. I personally would wait until after the baby comes. That way you’re not rushing everything. You can have everything you want, how you want it, and won’t get stressed out.
You do whatever you feel is right and whatever makes you happy. Keep in mind that you do not have to be married to be a “family”. Wait if you want, or get married if you want-showing or not. I’ll be eight and a half months along when I get married!! They have some BEAUTIFUL maternity wedding gowns : )
Do what you and your boyfriend want to do. Don’t get married b/c you feel like you have to since you’re pregnant. But if you want to get married now, don’t wait just because you’re showing. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do-do what makes you both happy!
you won’t start showing until 4 months (or later). Or well, at least “noticeably” showing to others…you’ll notice the changes in yourself. That’s still not very long to get a whole wedding together, though. Depends how elaborate you want to be. My boyfriend and I would like to get married, but we’re both still in college and i’d lose my insurance under my father if we were to do that. It sucks cause we’d like to raise this baby in a “family.” But it’s money and govn’t that don’t allow us to get married.
We’re like you, we know we’re in this for the long haul, I’m just so angry that a personal decision like marriage can get so corrupted by legality and such.
Its smarter to wait. I am 21 and have a 16 month old and I thought the same thing when I was pregnant. Having a baby and being a couple is a LOT different than being a couple without a baby. Just wait it out. Im not saying that you’re not meant to be together, but having a baby changes relationships. But if you two are meant to be together than having the baby won’t change that. Experience life and dont rush into something just because of a situation you are put in.
well you said it yourself that you know your going to be with him the rest of you life so i think you should get married before the baby is born and before you start to show because once you start to show your wedding dress might not fit you even two days after you get it sized thats why im getting married before i start to show too! congrats!
i was/am in about the same situation…i decided to wait till after the baby was born so that i wouldnt stress myself over a wedding and possibly cause harm to my baby…she’s now 6 months old and we’re saving money and starting to plan for the wedding…its really up to how u feel and what u wanna do
yes. if you love each other get married. It will make things a lot easier as there will be no extra papers to fill out when you’re trying to get health insurance, etc for the baby. when you’re married, they just put your husband’s name on the birth certificate and congratulate you. if you’re not married, you have to fill out additional paper work claiming paternity. and that’s just an example.
A lot of people say “save for the super huge wedding, etc” but i think that’s silly. after you have a baby, the last thing you’ll be thinking about or wanting to put your money towards is a huge wedding. Have a nice wedding (if that’s what you want, simple, romantic), and then have your baby.
congrats.
*edit: people will react differently when you say i’m having a baby with my girlfriend/boyfriend than “i’m having a baby with my wife/husband”. trust me, marriage is different.
I am 7 months pregnant now, but was 5 months along when we got married. We knew we would be together forever, so we started trying before our wedding date. We didn’t change the wedding date or anything. We let it all be in God’s hands, and God blessed us with a baby boy due in October.
I would do it before the baby comes. =)